A mostly photographic blog of our crazy world

family

Gallery

Silhouette fun

Advertisements

Gallery

Serious Conversation and A Boy’s Love For His Mom!


Sure Baby How Hard Could it be!

I love my big family, but with seven of us in the picture ranging from 1 year to 37 years, it can be very difficult just to get one good shot of the family. My recent comment to my wife was hey baby I should buy a remote then we could get some family portraits, it will be easy (husbands famous last words right up there with hold my beer)! With the most recent shoot of the family I clicked nearly 900 pics in a few hours some from in front of the camera with a remote so we could have some good pics of the entire family together which is why I love and hate modern technology. So here are some of the results from that shoot?

First off a small disclaimer and apology to Madison, we are a family that is all about having fun, but as I recently had to explain to Maddy, when there are seven of us and if one of you decides to do something funny in the shoot, then someone else does, then Kyrie won’t look at the camera, then Zander wants down, I end up with nothing at the end of a long shoot and daddy might have gotten a little frustrated when he got home went through the pics and said daughter had made a face in every single good shot!!! I might have been a little harsh and for that I apologize, especially as these usually cause smiles and I can get candid shots that are so much better than the “say cheese shots” that always look so unnatural. But with the remote I can’t see whats going on till later.

Well in all honesty you end up with some fun shots that usually don’t find there way to a frame on the wall but they do hold some good memories, which we have from all of our family shoot attempts!

So how hard could it be lets just start with mom dad and have big sis take the pictures. This will help us get to the root of the problem! I constantly am having to remind them no funny faces so I can get a couple shots without them but i wonder who starts it:

IMG_5744 IMG_5745 IMG_5746 IMG_5749

Busted in that last pic because the camera women was cracking up, but we did get a couple in fairness that I like:

IMG_5736_edited-1 IMG_5737_edited-1

So lets throw the 2 younger kids in there and see what happens:

IMG_5757 IMG_5758 IMG_5760 IMG_5761 IMG_5763 IMG_5765 IMG_5767 IMG_5768

So lets do a quick recap; I don’t want to mom, oh look hair my favorite, let go, look at the camera please and leave your brother alone, in my wife’s defense she is not strangling him but tickling him for the smile, and it works but wait Kyrie escapes and shes back but oh look more hair, I think mommy is almost bald now!

So what do we do; what else lets through the other three kids in and dad can use his new toy 🙂

IMG_5447 IMG_5448 IMG_5449 IMG_5451 IMG_5452

THese are all the shots from this pose and guess what miss maddie pulled a face in every one, grrrrr! this might have been where daddy got a little gruff at home when he started going through them. So lets move on to another pose:

IMG_5468

And between daddy trying to get the remote to work she strikes again now in all fairness we got some good ones in this pose so I don’t mind some good memories some fun and a good family pic.

IMG_5469_edited-1

Finally a family shot with the whole family! That is something we don’t have enough of! This is what life is about though lots of fun with the kids on the river with some good memories to be preserved hopefully forever!

 

 


My Awesome Daughter

IMG_5807_edited-1

‪#‎100happydays‬ My kids have always made me a happy man and as you see I have to work really hard to find other things besides my wife and family to fill the 100 days but this one snuck away with my phone and left a message across the top that said I love you dad! She made my night when i got on my phone the next time!


Are Your Child’s Wings Shriveled?

Butterfly Story . . . our struggles make us stronger!

“A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!”

–Author Unknown

 

Whether the above story is true or not I believe as a parent we can do too much for a child,and it can do so much more harm than we will ever understand. No I’m not saying we shouldn’t do anything for them! but I am saying when my 2-year-old starts to throw a fit because his Lego’s don’t go together the way he wants them to, we will calmly tell him to stop, calm down, now try another way and more often than not he figures it out. Sometimes you have to explain that they were not made to work that way, and some he really needs help, so we help him.

If he decides that despite repeated warnings that hot Cheetos will not be something he will like, then when he gets a hold of one on his 100th attempt we will stand by with a glass of milk and let him try one (guess what daddy needs a whole soda to eat those things, he doesn’t even need a drink and he loves them still to this day lesson learned for mommy and daddy well daddy anyways mommy knew he would like it). Now NO we will not let him touch the hot stove to learn a lesson, but since he has not experienced it he doesn’t understand that daddy or mommy really mean that’s hot so he will keep trying and sadly one day might slip past our guard. I’m not heartless if we think something really hurt him, or he thinks something really hurt him, we will pick him up, hug him and kiss it better. We don’t teach him that he can’t cry but we also encourage him to laugh when he takes an ugly spill, it is just so much easier to have a laughing outlet in our lives.

Does all this mean we have perfect children and we are the perfect parents? Far from it! I just called my mom a couple of days ago for advise because out of my 5 children he is the only one that has had a really hard time with sharing and also with hitting his younger sister. I had given up and ran out of ideas, luckily I have a mother with a Master’s of science in counseling to fall back on when I get desperate, and I do mean desperate (just kidding mom love you, oh ya, and how does that make you feel?). She gave me some good starting points now I will have a discussion with my wife and we will decide what we want to proceed with!

Did you catch all of the we’s in this post, some dads piss me off, moms a stay at home mom she deals with that (not that either of us are stay at home parents but you get the point). NO, NO NO, parents that are not on the same side  may not necessarily fail but you are once again not doing any favors for your children and you are missing out on some great quality time!

My kid is not light years ahead of other kids, it’s not like he has no fear, he has began to learn to respect certain things like heights, but it doesn’t stop him from attempting them, just that he is a little cautious when he does, better for mommy and daddies hearts  that way anyways.

I think as a society we have began to take everything away from our kids I remember seeing a recall for a bouncer we had, it has a sun that you can pull on and when you let go it bounces all around, it was recalled because if your kid was close to it, it might bounce back and hit them in the head! Oh no my kid got a fat lip, if so I have given him a hug and kiss, teach him to go back and play again and not give up. Guess what that toy has gone through 2 children and while neither of them actually caught themselves with it (that I know of probably should ave asked mom to be sure) both of them enjoyed that part of the toy a lot and learned a little cause and effect in the process! If one of them would have been hit they would have learned a lot about cause and effect. Is that so bad? We spend so much time making sure they don’t get hurt that we create a time bomb for every little injury that happens!

Wow my prime example seems to be Zander but hey that’s what 2 year old’s are all about, learning boundaries and cause and effect. The other night we were all at the table and Zander decides to goof off, he knows he is not allowed to stand in a chair (not completely because he could get hurt but because he is taught manners as well) and he takes a good fall. Mom and dad cringe that one had to hurt, but from under the table comes a giggle and up pops a beaming, smiling boy! I know a lot of kids that would have let this ruin their day and some of them were 16 at the time! Now he did get a quick word about that being why we don’t stand in the chair but I think the cause and effect taught him more than we ever could! Not that he has fully learned that lesson yet!

We need to let go a little, still protect, there are unacceptable behaviors and things that are to high of a risk, but don’t be afraid to let them spread their wings and bruise them a few times to learn what is okay and what isn’t. I believe in teaching them it is okay to wipe away a tear and then try again. In other words its okay to cry when it hurts but don’t give up and its okay to be frustrated but take a deep breath and try again! It’s definitely okay to ask daddy for a little help but I’m not going to do it for you, instead I will just step you through the process, in fact in the end probably just be more the morale support you needed to convince yourself you could do it!

I love my kids with all my heart when I see them hurt it hurts me just as bad, but I think by working their way through the problem they will be capable of so much more the next time!

IMG_5469_edited-1

Family photo fun! This also can be very challenging with young ones!


100 Happy Days

#100happydays Day 11 – I had several ideas for tonight as I headed to work none of them grand ideas, But my happiest moment of the day happened about 9:30 when I learned they didn’t need 2 RT’s tonight, So I decided to take the short shift and come home to my wife! I am so glad I was gonna post after first rounds and hadn’t quite finished yet. Spending the night sleeping curled up with your wife when you thought you were gonna be awake and working all night! That’s pure joy right there!!— with Angel Williams.

IMG_5736_edited-1

Credit for this pic actually goes to my Daughter Allason I think she is an awesome photographer!

I haven’t been posting these on here, I was using Facebook instead, but I wanted to push this challenge a little! I will post the link at the bottom but everyone should try this! It is easier than it seems, I usually snap the photo’s with my phone and just upload straight to facebook with #100happydays (Now let me say I HATE the whole hash tag thing but for this it works so i broke down). At the end if you complete it they send you a book with your 100 happy photo’s. They claim that 71% of people can’t find 5 minutes a day to post something that made them happy I challenge the bloggers out there to prove their numbers wrong!

Go to:  http://100happydays.com/ to sign up and get started!

 


Love the models that know what they are doing

IMG_1582_edited-1 IMG_1584_edited-1

Well most of the time its good that they know what they are doing but not sure she should have known so many poses quite yet! This little gal and her 2 sisters had done ten plus poses each before I got the camera turned on. It was fun working with them and I loved the way they turned out. This was My first time working with lights and a backdrop and this was all done with lamps a few homemade reflectors and diffuser. I had a lot of fun experimenting and besides throwing out 60 great poses that I missed the girls were very patient with me, so they were great test subjects. Thanks to Betsy for letting me photograph them they are precious!


My crazy wife’s glamour shoot

IMG_1201_edited-3

Yep I’m a lucky man to have a perfect model live with me so I can force convince her to get dolled up for me to do shoots. This particular shoot was a fun one and this is just one of hundreds of great photos we got that evening.


What do your kids mean to you

I had a discussion with a nurse I recently started working with  a couple nights ago and and we both have children with a wide age gap. We were talking about what kids mean to us and how much more we appreciate parenthood with our younger children. Now before you slaughter me let me explain! I have few regrets in life if any, my only true regret I can think of now  is that I didn’t understand at a young age what I truly had in my children. Don’t get me wrong I loved them with all my heart and soul and would not trade anything about them but being a young father I did not in any way appreciate fully what I had! I had not seen enough or done enough to fully understand what that means. Their mother and I are no longer together and I still get them at least once a week but I can never make up all that lost time when they are away from my house.

I am remarried now and we have two more children whom I love just as much but I feel bad someday’s like they get more than their older brother and sisters, but I realize that its not that I love them more (not by any means) I just have learned to appreciate what time I have with them, if anything I feel it has encouraged me to find more activities and reasons for my older children to join us on. I hope they never feel like they got cheated! I love all five of them equally and I have learned to cherish that time with the older ones as well, I just understand now what it means to be a father and a parent.

The point is, don’t take one minute for granted, always show that love to the best of your potential. Take advantage of every moment together. Do something that shows them what they mean to you!

Here are my 5 beautiful children.

Kyrie

Kyrie

Zander

Zander

Madison

Madison

Allason

Allason

Walker

Walker


Hell Hound (AKA – Lexi)

10156074_854390731253464_1879296065_n

 

 

This would be the lab that inspired the post http://pm11887.wordpress.com/2014/03/30/you-know-you-own-a-lab-when/ by my lovely and very talented wife, you should go read it if you have  not already some very true stuff!

I love the intense look and concentration in a labs eyes, especially when they are working in the field they take their job very seriously and you can see it in a good dog!